In our experience, the difference in success, or failure, is not how you look, not how you dress and not even how you’re educated. It’s how you think. We can’t overstate the importance of being able to maintain a positive attitude but let’s be honest…it’s not easy.
That’s why we love our new book, Attitude is Everything…10 Rules for Staying Positive. It breaks down the #1 key to success in a simple, but unforgettable way. The bottom line is that no matter what you do in life, the wisdom in this little book will help you succeed!
Today, we’re thrilled to share an excerpt from a chapter titled: “Wait to Worry,” which is great advice for everyone we know! Enjoy.
Excerpt from Attitude is Everything
by Vicki Hitzges
I used to worry. A lot. The more I fretted, the more proficient I became at it. Anxiety begets anxiety. I even worried that I worried too much! Ulcers might develop. My health could fail. My finances could deplete to pay the hospital bills.
A comedian once said, “I tried to drown my worries with gin, but my worries are equipped with flotation devices.” While not a drinker, I certainly could identify! My worries could swim, jump and pole vault!
To get some perspective, I visited a well-known, Dallas businessman, Fred Smith. Fred mentored such luminaries as motivational whiz Zig Ziglar, business guru Ken Blanchard and leadership expert John Maxwell. Fred listened as I poured out my concerns and then said, “Vicki, you need to learn to wait to worry.”
As the words sank in, I asked Fred if he ever spent time fretting. (I was quite certain he wouldn’t admit it if he did. He was pretty full of testosterone – even at age 90.) To my surprise, he confessed that in years gone by he had been a top-notch worrier!
“I decided that I would wait to worry!” he explained. “I decided that I’d wait until I actually had a reason to worry – something that was happening, not just something that might happen – before I worried.”
“When I’m tempted to get alarmed,” he confided, “I tell myself, ‘Fred, you’ve got to wait to worry! Until you know differently, don’t worry.’ And I don’t. Waiting to worry helps me develop the habit of not worrying and that helps me not be tempted to worry.”
Fred possessed a quick mind and a gift for gab. As such, he became a captivating public speaker. “I frequently ask audiences what they were worried about this time last year. I get a lot of laughs,” he said, “because most people can’t remember. Then I ask if they have a current worry – you see nods from everybody. Then I remind them that the average worrier is 92% inefficient – only 8% of what we worry about ever comes true.”
Charles Spurgeon said it best. “Anxiety does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, but only empties today of its strength.”
This beautiful little book makes a treasured gift for any occasion and offers a great reminder to be self-less. For more information, or to look inside the book, just click here.